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Saturday, September 19, 2015

Presentation Prep

Larry Mandelberg, Guest Author

The one factor I’ve found to have the greatest impact on the quality of my presentation is how prepared I am. I have a routine:

A&S-SpeakerPrepDocument the desired result or outcome for the presentation, whether it’s my own self-produced event or for a client.
Understand the demographics of the target audience, identify their “tribal lingo” as it relates to my topic and adjust my presentation accordingly; this includes any examples or case studies.

Document all assumptions (I have a master list I work from, much like experienced travelers use when packing for a long trip) and review with the event organizer, e.g., podium, technology, audio, food, timing, handouts, logistics, seeing the meeting space.

Get familiar with the environment I’m going to be working in. Sometimes that means traveling for hours to get to a site and finding a comfortable place in the room, sometimes it involves asking for changes by the event organizer — lights, lectern, a clock I can see, microphones, aisles that allow me to walk around in the audience, etc.

Most Critical Step ~ Practice. Then practice some more. Then more. Go through three dry runs out loud from beginning to end in the actual environment (if possible, if not find some place close, even if you have to use a room in your house), and time yourself.

Buy a Wall Street Journal on the day of the event, find an article related to your topic — there will ALWAYS be one — and use it as a prop during your presentation.

BONUS Articles: The Importance of the Pause When Speaking
A Cheat Sheet for Public Speaking
33 Public Speaking Tips to Keep Your Audience from Falling Asleep
How to Give a Great Speech ~ Part One

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Sunday, June 7, 2015

33 Public Speaking Tips to Keep Your Audience from Falling Asleep

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Pat Flynn, Guest Author

I’ve learned a lot of these tips by reading and watching as much as I could about the craft of public speaking, watching countless hours of TED talks and similar high-quality presentations and of course, being on stage dozens of times myself.

Each time I go onto the stage for a new event, I always try to focus on one new thing that I’m going to practice and incorporate into my presentation. Obviously, you always want to do your best, but when you bring one new thing to improve each time it’ll help your speaking game tremendously and it’ll stop you from being overwhelmed with the process and trying out too many new things at once.

The video is 38 minutes and 50 seconds, so if you don’t have time now, bookmark this page and be sure to watch it later.

Copyright © 2015 – Pat Flynn.

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Thursday, May 14, 2015

How to Give a Great Speech ~ Part Two

NOTE: You may want to read “How to Give a Great Speech” Part One before you read Part Two.

Earl Nightingale, Guest Author

Don’t be a comedian

Humor isn’t something that can be forced, nor should it be reached for. It’s something that comes naturally to those with the ability, or at least it seems to. If you have it, congratulations. Use it wisely. If you don’t have it, use it sparingly and make certain it’s really funny before you use it at all. Don’t try to dabble in one of the most difficult professions in the world — that of a stand-up comedian.

A&SGreatSpeech2Before you include a joke in your speech, ask yourself this: Why am I telling it? Jokes aren’t necessary to the opening of a speech. Neither are funny comments, unless they have a clever tie-in of some sort that the audience will genuinely appreciate and enjoy.

I’ve heard so many tedious speakers say, following the introduction, “That reminds me of a story …” and then proceed to tell a story that hasn’t the faintest resemblance to anything said in the introduction at all. It didn’t remind him. He just wanted to tell a joke, and everybody in the audience knows it and begins to move their feet and cough and look around for the exit.

Here’s a good rule to follow that I’ve found works. If there is any doubt in your mind whatever, if there is the faintest feeling of uneasiness about a story, never tell it. That feeling of uneasiness is your more intelligent subconscious trying to tell you to forget it. Save if for the locker room at the club if you must tell it.

If you want a foolproof system, use the enormously successful Jack Benny system: Make yourself the joke. Benny has produced the most prolonged, helpless laughter in the history of show business. It happened on his old radio program when he was approached by a robber who said, “Your money or your life.” What followed was simply silence, the deadly, convulsively funny silence that only Jack Benny could manage. The silence lasted only a few seconds when the laughter began, then mounted and mounted and continued for a record-breaking period of time, I think something like 15 minutes. Finally, when it did subside, the robber repeated, “I said your money or your life.” And Jack Benny replied, “I’m thinking. I’m thinking.”

Again the laughter took hold and the program nearly ran out of time before it could even attempt to finish. A simple silence did it as Jack tried desperately to decide which was more important to him, his money or his life. He was always the loser in his elaborate plans, as is the coyote in his attempts to trap the road runner. People love us when we’re foiled by our own weaknesses.

If humor is your forte, then you don’t need any advice or help from me. If it isn’t, use it sparingly and in good taste. It’s wonderful when it’s right. It’s so awful when it isn’t.

Speak with style

I was a speaker at a hospital benefit, and as I waited in the wings of a large theater where the benefit was being staged, I noticed that one of the officials for the evening was on stage in front of the lectern reading the names of the various high school graduates from the community who had won scholarships in nursing. He never looked up at the audience. He spoke in such low monotones that he was difficult to hear, even with an excellent audio system, and his performance was as lackluster as any I’ve ever seen. When he was through, he walked back to where I was standing in the wings. As he disappeared from view to the audience, his face broke with a beautiful broad smile, and he said in a strong voice, “Man, am I glad that’s over.” I stopped him and I said, “You should have flashed that wonderful smile to the audience and used your normal voice. It’s excellent.” “Oh, that,” he shuddered. “I’m scared to death out there.”

Now, the audience got a picture of a very lackluster man with no personality and no style whatsoever, a total cipher. Yet, here was a good-looking man with a beautiful smile, an excellent style of his own that his friends and acquaintances no doubt greatly admired. I wanted to go on stage and say to that great audience. “I wish you could see so-andso as he really is. He’s quite a guy.”

Everyone has his or her own special style. It seems to come with the genes and the upbringing and the education, all of thousands of experiences that coalesce to form a person’s own unique style.

You have only to study prominent people on television to quickly see that each of them has a style all his or her own that he or she is completely unconscious of. Just as we should never doubt our hunches or our own unique powers, we should never doubt that we have a natural style. If, and it’s a big if — if we can be natural.

The key is to lose ourselves in our material. In an ideal speech, we are conscious of putting on a performance, but at the same time we’re so interested in what we’re talking about and we know our subject so thoroughly, we can immerse ourselves in it.

I was chatting with a salesman on an airplane one time. It turned out we were both going to the same convention. I had to speak. He had to receive his company’s highest honor as national sales leader. As our conversation grew more animated, I asked him the secret of being number one in sales with his company. And he gave me the most interesting answer. He said, “I was in this business for several years, and I tried hard and I worked hard, but I was a long way from the top. Then one day, a wonderful thing happened. All of a sudden, things were turned around. Instead of my being in this business, the business got into me.”

He looked at me and his eyes were shining, and he asked, “Do you know what I mean?” I told him I knew exactly what he meant and he could number himself among the most fortunate human beings on earth, the people who actually enjoy what they’re doing, the real stars. It reminded me of John Stuart Mill’s theory of happiness in his book Utilitarianism. He said that only those people who do not seek happiness directly are happy. People who spend their time helping others and are engaged in some art or pursuit — followed not by a means, but as itself an ideal end — find happiness along the way. The important part is that those who are the happiest are engaged in a daily pursuit, followed not just as a means, but as itself an ideal end. And it’s the same in making a fine speech.

BONUS Article: The Communicator’s Job – Can You Improve Your Speaking and Writing?

Copyright © 2015 – Earl Nightingale. Earl Nightingale was the author of Lead the Field. To read more articles by Earl Nightingale, “Life of the Unsuccessful” (Mar/Apr 2006), “The Cure for Procrastination” (Sep/Oct 2005), and “The Strangest Secret” (Nov/Dec 2004), visit www.AdvantEdgeMag.com/Nightingale today.

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Wednesday, May 6, 2015

How to Give a Great Speech ~ Part One

Earl Nightingale, Guest Author

There are two kinds of public speakers: There are those who are asked to talk to a group and those who, because of their position, are forced to talk before groups — people such as ministers, teachers, executives, and sales managers.

In the first instance ”that is, if you’re asked to make a speech” it means you know something others want to hear. It usually means you’re an expert on some subject, and so people come to hear you because they want to. If your job demands that you talk before groups, you have an even greater responsibility because your audience must listen to you whether they like it or not.

A&SGreatSpeech1But in either case, you can make a good speech with a little preparation. Here are some guidelines.

A good speech is like good conversation

A good conversationalist will make a good speaker. He’s sensitive to the presence of others. His antennae are forever alert, picking up signals from his audience and involving them in his talk.

Good conversation is one of the great joys of human commerce. Good conversation should be like the game of tennis, in which the ball is struck back and forth, with each player participating equally. Bores are like golfers who just keep hitting their own ball, over and over and over again.

A good speaker is able to achieve a marvelous give-and-take with her audience, just as a good conversationalist does with the person she’s with. She recognizes that people in our society desire recognition more than any other factor.

She will ask her audience questions such as, “Do you agree with that?” Then she’ll pause and read their response — by their silence, their attention, their nods, their poking of the person sitting next to them, by their laughter, or by their seriousness at the right places.

If they’re bored, they’ll find ways of showing it, despite their best efforts. If they’re interested, they’ll show that too. And we have a duty to be interesting or we shouldn’t get up there in the first place. That is the task of the speaker, whether we’re the manager of the sales force, in a car dealership, an insurance agency, real estate office, or a large international organization. When interest leaves, the sell goes out of our message.

Our responsibility is not only to create a speech that will lead an audience to a believable conclusion; we must also make the very building blocks of that conclusion as fascinating as we can. It is in this way that we can hold the attention of our audience until we get to that all-important final point. In addition, if we can develop techniques that make our audience feel that we are conversing with them, we will convey that we care what they are thinking — and that will create the emotional climate for them to accept us as favorably as possible.

The single-theme formula

Professional salespeople, marketing experts, and leaders in the advertising profession know the importance of selling one thing at a time. Only catalogs can successfully handle a multitude of items. In a five-minute speech or even a long speech, it’s important to have a single theme, and, like a good salesperson, you pose the problem and then give your solution. At the end, the problem is restated and the solution quickly summarized.

Your opening statement should be an attention getter. For example, you might say, “Scientists all over the world are agreed that the world’s oceans are dying.” A sobering thought indeed. It captures immediate interest, and everyone is thinking, “Why, that would presage the end of the world. What are we doing about it?”

Using an internationally recognized authority as your reference, someone such as Jacques Cousteau, you provide the supporting evidence that your opening remark is indeed true, and then you proceed to outline the possible ways that the disaster might be averted. At the end, you might say, “Yes, the oceans of the world are dying today, but if we can marshal the combined efforts of the world’s peoples, if we can influence every maritime country to pass laws governing the pollution of the seas by oil tankers …” So you end on a note of hope and at the same time enlist the sympathy of every one of your listeners in your cause.

Not all talks are about social problems, of course. You might be talking about a recent fishing trip, in which case, you find something of special interest in the story and open with that. You might say “Ounce for ounce, the rainbow trout is one of the gamest fish on earth.” It’s a much better attention getter and interest stimulator than saying, “I want to tell you about my recent fishing trip.” A few words about the fish you were after, and then you can work in the rest. “Two weeks ago, John Cooper and I decided to try our luck on the White River near Carter, Arkansas. It’s one of the most naturally beautiful spots in the country” and so on. Stay with the trip and that rainbow trout, the hero of your story, and how good it tasted cooked over an open fire on the bank of the river. Then at the close, to more closely link your listeners to the subject, you might say, “If you’ve never been trout fishing, let me recommend it as one of the world’s best ways to forget your problems, clear your brain, and gain a new perspective. And when you hook a rainbow trout, you’re in for one of the greatest thrills of a lifetime.”

Watch your personal pronouns. Keep yourself out of your conversation as much as possible. As with the case of the fishing story, talk about the fish, the beautiful scenery, and your companions, other people you met, a humorous incident or two perhaps, but don’t keep saying, ” I did this” and “I did that.” The purpose of the speech is not to talk about you but rather the subject matter. There’s an old saying that small minds talk about things, average minds talk about people, and great minds talk about ideas. What you’re selling is almost always an idea, even if it’s painting the house. The idea is the good appearance or the protection of the house. The fishing trip story is about the idea of getting away and going after exciting game fish. One idea, well developed, is the key.

Just as a beautiful painting is put together by a thousand brush strokes, each stroke makes a contribution to the main theme, the overall picture. And it’s the same with a good speech.

Read “How to Give a Great Speech” Part Two @ How to Give a Great Speech ~ Part Two!

Copyright © 2015 – Earl Nightingale. Earl Nightingale was the author of Lead the Field. To read more articles by Earl Nightingale, “Life of the Unsuccessful” (Mar/Apr 2006), “The Cure for Procrastination” (Sep/Oct 2005), and “The Strangest Secret” (Nov/Dec 2004), visit www.AdvantEdgeMag.com/Nightingale today.

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Tuesday, April 28, 2015

When Speaking ~ Be Brief

Stephen D. Boyd, Ph.D., CSP, Guest Author

Centuries ago great speakers often spoke two hours and more. But today when sound bytes on television news are the norm and serious problems are solved in an hour on a television drama, audiences are most interested in speakers that get their points across in a short period of time. In a speech delivered to a Women in Communication audience, Patricia Ward Brash said, “Television has helped create an impatient society, where audiences expect us to make our point simply and quickly.”

Today great speakers are noted for their brevity. Billy Graham, in a recent city-wide campaign in Cincinnati, spoke about 20 minutes each night. Theodore Sorensen in his book, “Kennedy,” gave guidelines by which President Kennedy prepared speeches. No speech was more than 20-30 minutes. He wasted no words and his delivery wasted no time. He rarely used words he considered hackneyed or word fillers.

A&SbeBriefAs Purdue communications professor and researcher Josh Boyd wrote, “In physics, power is defined as work divided by time. In other words, more work done in less time produces more power. In the same way, a speaker’s message is most powerful when he [or she] can deliver a lot of good material in a short amount of time.”

Here are guidelines to make brevity a key foundation in your next speech. First, keep your stories under two minutes in length. In preparing a story, continue to ask the question, “How can I say this in less time and in fewer words?” Script out your story and then seek to condense it. There is an adage in using humor: “The longer the story the funnier it had better be.” Connecting this principle to stories in general, we might say, “The longer the story, the more impact it had better have.”

To make sure your stories stay under two minutes, include only information that answers the questions, “Who?” “What?” “When?” “Where?” and “Why?” If it doesn’t answer one of these questions, leave it out. Make sure also that you have a sense of direction in the story. Each part of the story should move toward the conclusion in the mind of the listener. The listener should always feel you are going somewhere in developing your story.

Second, when possible, follow the proverb, “Less is better than more.” Never use three words when you can say it in two. Leave out clichés, filler words, and hackneyed words, such as “You know,” “OK,” and “All right.” Leave out phrases such as “Let me be honest,” or blunt, or frank. Avoid “In other words.” or “To say it another way.” Speak in short sentences, short phrases, and short words. Word choice should be instantly clear to an audience. Make it a goal to make every word have impact in your speech.

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Third, know the length of your speech by practicing it. Never be surprised by the length of your speech. Never say to an audience, “I’m running out of time, so I must hurry along.” You should know because of your preparation and practice of the speech. To go one step further, if you know the time limit on your speech is 20 minutes, stop a minute short; don’t go overtime. Audiences will appreciate your respect of their time and will think more highly of you as a speaker because of that. You should never be surprised by how long it takes you to deliver a speech

AnecdoteFourth, learn to divide parts of your speech into time segments. Let’s use a 20-minute speech as an example. The introduction should be no longer than 2 minutes. You can get the attention and preview your message easily in that length of time. Avoid opening with generalizations about the weather or the audience. Let the audience know up front that every word you speak counts.

Spend the bulk of your time in the body of the speech. This is where you make your points and give support or evidence for each point. The final two minutes should be your summary and move to action statement. Some speakers have a hard time concluding. When you say you are going to conclude, do so. As one wise person stated, “Don’t dawdle at the finish line of the speech.”

One way to keep your speech brief is to have few points in the body of your speech-no more than three. With a maximum of three points, you will have the self-discipline to condense rather than amplify. In organizing your material, accept the fact you will always have more material than you can cover and that you will only include material that relates to one of the two or three points you plan to make. Trying to cover four to six points will almost invariably make you go overtime in your speech.

A key to success in speaking is not just having something worthwhile to say, but also saying it briefly. We need to follow the speaking axiom, “Have a powerful, captivating opening and a strong, memorable close, and put the two of them as close together as possible.”

BONUS Articles: Ten Lessons on Presentation & Performance You Can Learn by Watching Taylor Swift
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Copyright © 2015 – Stephen D. Boyd. – Reprinted with permission. Stephen D. Boyd, Ph.D., CSP, is a professor of speech communication at Northern Kentucky University in Highland Heights, Kentucky. He is also a trainer in communication who presents more than 60 seminars and workshops a year to corporations and associations. See additional articles, resources and contact info at www.SBoyd.com.

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Thursday, October 2, 2014

Speaking Secrets of Joel Osteen

Carmine Gallo, Guest Author

The following is an excerpt from an interview with Pastor Joel Osteen by Carmine Gallo. Joel Osteen is Pastor of Lakewood Church in Houston, TX. To read the entire interview, click here.

Carmine: “Now take me backstage at Yankee Stadium this summer where 50,000 people turned out to hear you speak. As you’re walking up the steps to the field, what’s your internal dialogue?”

joel_osteenJoel: “It was night and day from my first sermon. I now have 15 years of experience. A year or two after I started preaching I began to hit my stride. I started to say, ‘Okay, maybe I was meant to do this.’ When I walk on stage today I feel humbled and rewarded that so many people came out. I tell myself that I’ll give it my best and hopefully move some people in a positive direction.”

Carmine: “Most people would have a severe panic attack in the moments before speaking to a sold-out stadium. But today your thought process is different. It’s an attitude of ‘I can’t wait to share this message.’”

Joel: “Exactly. You have to talk to yourself the right way and believe you are the person for the job. When you’re prepared in your material and in your mindset, that’s important. I walk up to the stage telling myself, ‘Everyone here wants to hear me. Nobody made them come.’ I’m talking to myself the right way. You cannot get on stage with self-defeating thoughts like ‘I’m boring, nobody wants to listen to me, I’m going to forget my script. ’ That’s preparing yourself to fail.”

Carmine: “This reinforces one of the chapters in your new book, You Can You Will, where you reveal the eight ‘undeniable qualities of a winner.’ You say that having a positive mindset is one of those undeniable qualities.”

Joel: “That’s exactly right. Some people are just raised negative. They don’t think they’re being negative, but they go through life almost expecting not to do well. They’ll show up for a job interview not expecting to get it. I think you have to turn it around. When you get up in front of people, believe that they want to hear you. Act like they like you.”

Carmine: “You include a lot of stories in each sermon and each sermon seems polished and effortless. I know ‘effortless’ takes work. Please tell me how you choose your stories and how many times you practice?”

Joel: “I like to bring in stories of practical, everyday people and examples that the audience can relate to. I think it can get boring to have too much information without a lot of examples and stories. I have a list of stories and I write down what people tell me. I choose the story that fits the message. Getting back to my pastor side, Jesus used examples, and parables, and stories because they are more impactful.”

Carmine: “Now tell me about how you practice and how your rehearsal gives you confidence to be in the moment.”

Joel: “I spend Thursday and Friday writing and going over my 28-minute message. I write it out word for word. I’ll take three hours on Friday and three hours on Saturday and review it page by page. I deliver it Saturday night and twice on Sunday. The one people see on television is my third delivery.

Carmine: “Ah, so by the last sermon, which is the one people see on TV and YouTube, you’ve had hours and hours of refining the stories, the pacing, the delivery. Most people don’t practice once!”

Joel: “When I first started I just made some notes and thought, I’ll just get up there and do it. I learned that, for me at least, if I haven’t rehearsed the sermon, it doesn’t come out the way I think it should.”

Carmine: “Finally, Joel, what’s the secret to inspiring people to make radical changes in their life?”

Joel: “Be real. Be personable. Make it simple so people don’t walk away asking, ‘What’s the point?’”

Joel’s last observation speaks to the heart of inspiration. It’s very hard to inspire others if you’re not true to who you are. Even Osteen tried to mimic someone else—his dad’s preaching style. Osteen only came into his own when he freed himself from what others thought he should be and stayed true to who he was meant to be. “My calling was to plant a seed of hope,” he said. I believe all of us have ideas that are meant to be shared; stories that are meant to be told.

Too many people keep their ideas locked up because they have a fear of public speaking or a fear of being harshly judged for their ideas. The fear of speaking – the fear of speaking up – is one of the most common fears most of us share. The good news is you can overcome it and, as Joel Osteen has proven, do it in a big, big way.

CarmineGalloCopyright © 2014 – Carmine Gallo. Carmine Gallo is the communication coach for the world’s most admired brands, a popular keynote speaker, and author of several bestselling books including the Wall Street Journal hits The Presentation Secrets of Steve Jobs and his latest Talk Like TED: The 9 Public Speaking Secrets Of The World’s Top Minds. This article originally appeared on Forbes.com.

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Thursday, August 7, 2014

Are You a New Speaker? Start Here…

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If you talk with people who have been speaking for a long time, many of them will tell you that they started with Toastmasters. I few may tell you they took the Dale Carnegie course for public speaking. If you are new to the speaking business I would begin with Toastmasters, then take the Dale Carnegie course.

Check out five time-tested Toastmasters tips in the first video that will help you master a topic and present it well. Following these tips will ensure your next speech goes smoothly and your audience gets more from the experience.

When speaking, do you rely too heavily on notes? Do you avoid eye contact? Learn how to steer clear of common mistakes that might alienate an audience. Here are a few speaker mistakes to avoid:

BONUS Articles: The Two Elements of a Great Presenter
The Speaking Pause… Why We Won’t Stop Talking!
Giving a Speech? Let Others Do Some of the Talking

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Friday, April 25, 2014

The Two Elements of a Great Presenter

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Seth Godin, Guest Author

1. Respect (from the audience)

2. Love (to the audience)

There are no doubt important evolutionary reasons why this is true, but in my experience, every great presenter earns the respect of the audience (through her appearance, reputation, posture, voice, slides, introduction, etc.) and captures the attention of the audience by sending them love.

KeyElementsSPEAKERLove takes many forms. I love you enough to teach you this. I love you enough to help you. I love you enough to look you in the eye. Or, in the case of rock and roll presentations, I love you enough to want to engage in various acts with you, right now, backstage.

Margaret Thatcher was a great presenter, even though she had none of the glib charisma people expect from someone with that title. That’s because people (even those that disagreed with her) respected her before she started, and they understood at every moment that her motivation was to motivate and improve the lives of those she was presenting to.

In the famous interrogation scene in Basic Instinct (link not included so no one yells at me), Sharon Stone does a brilliant presentation. She instantly earns (a sort of) respect from the cops and their undivided attention at the same time. She replaces love with sex, and it works.

Tony Robbins is considered an astounding presenter for a similar reason. His stage presence and reputation and energy and sheer size earn him respect, and his generosity and complete connection with the audience is received by them as love. The result is a connection far bigger than the content alone would account for.

If you have love but no respect, you’re a lounge singer. Fail.

If you have respect, but no love, you’re like one of the rare self-promotional talks at TED. Fail.

In a speech by Patton – in 28 seconds, George C. Scott delivered both – respect and love.

When you create a presentation, think about what your status will be as you begin the presentation. What can you do to prewire, to earn more respect from the start? How can you be introduced? Lit? Miked? What can you wear? If your reputation doesn’t precede you, how do you earn it?

Don’t apologize at the beginning of the talk. For anything. Don’t hide in the dark. Don’t hide behind a wall of bullet points.

And then, as the talk (pitch/presentation/interview) begins, don’t focus your energy or concern on yourself. It’s not about you. It’s about them.

The presenter who loves his audience the most, wins.

Copyright © 2014. Seth Godin. Seth Godin has written thirteen books that have been translated into more than thirty languages. Every one has been a bestseller. He writes about the post-industrial revolution, the way ideas spread, marketing, quitting, leadership and most of all, changing everything. Seth is the founder of The Domino Project. Check Seth’s Blog.

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Monday, March 24, 2014

10 Ways Great Speakers Capture People’s Attention

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Sims Wyeth, Guest Author

In my mind, there are two kinds of attention: neck down, and neck up. Neck-up attention is when the listener has to make an effort to pay attention. Neck-down attention is when the listener is riveted to the speaker: she can’t help but pay attention.

Please note that, in our language of English, attention is paid because attention is a valuable currency. When listeners pay attention, they are rewarding you with arguably the most valuable currency in the world.

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Here are 10 techniques that are guaranteed to earn you more attention without losing any of your professional credibility.

1. Start with the unexpected.
2. Make it about them.
3. Keep it concrete at the start.
4. Keep it moving.
5. Get to the point.
6. Arouse emotion.
7. Keep it interactive.
8. Write clear headlines.
9. Keep it short.
10. Let there be you.

Read the complete article, “10 Ways Great Speakers Capture People’s Attention,” by clicking here.

SimsWyeth2Copyright © 2014 – Sims Wyeth. Sims Wyeth is the president of Sims Wyeth & Co., an executive development firm devoted to the art and science of speaking persuasively. He is also the author of The Essentials of Persuasive Public Speaking, published by W. W. Norton.

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Sunday, September 1, 2013

5 Mistakes I Made in My First 5 Years as a Professional Speaker

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Rory Vaden, Guest Author

There are a whole lot of things that our team has done right in growing our different business lines at Southwestern Consulting. Looking back however, there are some mistakes that I made specifically in building my keynote speaking business. I now realize these are pretty common and wanted to share them with you to share with anyone you know who is trying to make it as a “speaker.”

PROSpeaker1. I marketed to Speakers Bureaus too early: In my ambition to get my career off the ground quickly I thought in my mind that Speakers Bureaus were the key to success and the obvious way to go. I thought “hey they book speakers all day every day, why wouldn’t they want to book me?!” While I can’t fault my own initiative and enthusiasm I would not advise other young speakers to go that route.

You often only get 1 shot at getting your foot in the door with people like that and there are some that I wish would’ve heard about me from their clients rather than from me – and had I spent more of my time marketing to clients and prospects then they probably would have. Joe Calloway later shared with me that the way he started working with bureaus was he sent them 100 testimonial letters from clients (shrunk 4 to a page) along with a demo video of his full keynote that had been absolutely polished. I wish I would’ve taken that route. However, I didn’t make the same mistake of going to book publishers too early. For that I waited until I had a platform big enough to sell through enough books to create a successful launch.

2. I was too contrived and mechanical on stage: Having been to the World Championships of Public Speaking twice for Toastmasters at a young age, I had made a true science out of speaking. While that has served me tremendously well and it has enabled me now to get to a skill level on stage that few ever get to, I focused too much early on in my professional speaking career on speaking mechanics instead of audience connection. Today’s paying audiences want conversational and genuine, not methodical and trite. One thing I have learned is to never let the science get in the way of the art.

3. I didn’t understand the value and importance of “my list”: It makes me queasy thinking about how many more people I would be helping right now had I had the presence of mind and intention to capture and store contact information for all my early fans. Now with so many technological tools for staying in touch, I’m kicking myself for not having made it more of a focus to gather email addresses when I first began. This is building your own audience and putting yourself in control of your own destiny rather than having to rely on other people to decide if you are good enough to be in front of an audience. (I know a whole lot of speakers that after years are still not building their lists!)

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4. I didn’t create content consistently: While following Larry Winget’s advice of having “one keynote speech” that is amazing was one of the true cornerstones of any success that I’ve had in this business (as opposed to trying to be all things to all people), unfortunately I over-applied that advice to not furthering my expertise. Creating content forces you to think intensely on whatever your topic is and the deeper you go the more valuable the insights are that you find. Getting into the discipline of blogging 3-5x a week has been one of the most valuable things I’ve done for my career, my positioning, my web traffic, but most of all for my thinking.

5. I focused too much on myself: Like most speakers, I got into the business largely for the dream and cache of being on stage in front of a huge audience. And while that has always been fun, it’s just so self-centered. When my career really started taking off was when I got relentlessly focused on helping businesses solve their problems. The moment I started trying to sell my solutions to companies rather than selling myself as a speaker was a key turning point both in my success and in my humility. You have to ask yourself “who are you doing all of this for?”

If it’s for you, then people can tell from a mile away and they’ll run the opposite direction. But if you are committed to finding real new and unique answers to today’s toughest problems then clients seem to come running after you.

Whether you’re a speaker or not, these are 5 mistakes you have to watch out for. The first one is about relying on someone else to sell you instead of you taking matters into your own hands. The second one is about letting the science of your profession get in the way of the art of serving people. The third one is about a commitment to building lasting, meaningful and value-added relationships. The fourth one is about challenging your thinking to get to a new level. And the last one is about being a true Servant Seller instead of a self-centered promoter. Hopefully you can apply these regardless of what business you’re in.

RoryVadenCopyright © 2013 Rory Vaden. Rory Vaden, MBA is Cofounder of Southwestern Consulting, Self-Discipline Strategist and Speaker, and New York Times bestselling author of Take the Stairs .

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